How To Abstain From Sex

What is Sex?

Sex is the trait that determines whether a sexually reproducing organism produces male or female gametes.

During sexual reproduction, a male and a female gamete fuse to form a zygote, which develops into an offspring that inherits traits from each parent.

How To Abstain From Sex

Set the ground rules of what celibacy or abstinence specifically means to you and why you’re setting out on this journey

Make sure abstaining from sex is something you are very serious about and are only doing for yourself! Celibacy is no walk in the park and can be extremely hard if you don’t have a serious mind set.

You are the one in control, and you always have the choice to decide to hold off from having a sexual relationship. Be extremely clear and transparent about your reasons for wanting to practice abstinence.

Set feasible boundaries of how much sexual interaction you are willing to have and start to follow those personal rules immediately. There are different levels of abstinence. Some people do not want any physical contact, like kissing and hand-holding.

Have a strong support system

A strong support system makes the difference! You want people around you, whether friends or family that support your decision to abstain from sex. Abstaining from sex is a very controversial topic and most people have strong opinions about why you should or shouldn’t abstain from sex.

Being able to talk to my friends about the struggle of abstaining from sex and hearing their words of encouragement have helped me greatly. There are also many forums online where you can discuss abstinence, If you’re shy about discussing your decision with friends and family, going online can help.

Be transparent about your decision and boundaries. 

If you find yourself interested in a potential partner, you need to make the boundaries that you set in tip Talk to your partner about why you’re choosing to practice abstinence and make your expectations and boundaries clear.

This tip alone has helped me to avoid a lot of men who had no real interest in getting to know me but who just wanted to have sex. I’ve decided that any man who cannot support my decision to abstain from sex cannot be someone I move forward with in the future.

Avoid substances or situations that may impair your judgment-

Try to stay away from situations where it may be hard to say no. One of the times I almost broke my commitment to myself was when I sent a booty call text while tipsy on alcohol, I was very aware of what I was doing and had decided I was going to have a wild night of tipsy sex.

Thankfully, my text wasn’t responded to quickly enough and I didn’t succumb to my desires. As I abstain from sex, I have to be aware of situations that may trigger my flesh and potentially challenge my decision to remain abstinent.

I know its extremely hard for me to be alone in a room with a man I’m strongly attracted to and not have sex. I avoid putting myself into a scenario where I may find myself weak. Be aware of situations that may test your willpower and avoid them at all costs.

Remind yourself why you chose abstinence

There’s been times when I’ve become extremely impatient and wanted to revert back to my old ways with men and sex.

Journaling the reasons you chose abstinence can help remind yourself that you made the right choice. Journaling and constantly referring back to the exact reason I started this journey, helps me to stay strong and motivated.


Masturbation can be good for mental and physical health. It has been a way for me to easily deal with sexual desires and also learn more about my body without having sex. I’ve found a healthy way to relieve stress and become more comfortable with my body.

Is it healthy to abstain from sex?

Abstinence can be a way to avoid the risks that come with sex — like pregnancy and STDs — until you’re ready to prevent and handle them. Abstinence can also help you focus on other things in your life that are important to you, like friends, school, sports, activities, having fun, and planning for your future.

How long should you abstain from sex?

Takeaway. There is no correct amount of sex to have, and the best frequency varies from person to person.

Not having sex for a long time should not have negative health effects. There is no right or wrong way to express sexual feelings, as long as everyone involved is consenting.